As a Parent, It’s Up to YOU to Be Speaking Life on YOUR Children!
Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
My children are 18 and 16 now and I am so glad that I learned to speak life on them when they were young. I see a drastic need for people to know this and know HOW to Speak Life and Blessings on their kids!
Before I go any further on this, I do want to say that if you are guilty of doing these things that I am about to point out, STOP IT NOW! I want you to correct what you are doing but I don’t want you to feel condemned. Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. This scripture simply means to let things go and don’t allow yourself to be condemned. Correct whatever the problem is and keep looking to Jesus!
Have you ever seen someone grab a child and spank them in public, while yelling at them and saying something like…”I don’t know why you won’t listen to me. You are so stupid. You’re just like your daddy!” Or… “Do you even know how to act your age? Quit acting like a retard.” And… “Well DUH! Any idiot knows the answer to that one!”
Just because you say, “I was just kidding and playing around”, that doesn’t take away the fact that kids believe what YOU tell them.
Let me show you the path to follow in this matter. Speaking life on kids really does work! Start out slow and easy, make some rules and stick with it.
This is two-sided because you’ve got to Quit speaking death first! Then, Start speaking life.
EXAMPLE – Nobody in this house is allowed to EVER use the word “DUH” directly at each other again. Allow your kids to correct you and vice versa when anybody slips up! (Substitute this rule for whatever it is that is the most prevalent, humiliating, “death-speaking” phrase in your house!) Another word that isn’t allowed is – “WHATEVER” while rolling the eyes and walking off. To me, those are fighting words. That means that I have absolutely ZERO respect from my children if they are allowed to tell me that and walk off. The point here is not that I get to be in charge and my kids walk the line so that I can look good! You would not believe how good children feel about themselves when they are taught to respect you and to be respected, too. Since my daughter is 18, she does correct me when I am not showing her respect, as well. And…it’s difficult for me sometimes because I am the mother but she is only doing what I have taught her to do.
Do you see how that works?
This part – Speaking Life – is also going to be uncomfortable at first, so be prepared for it. Both you and your children will feel awkward when you tell them that you are going to Bless & Speak Life on them! Neither one of you are used to it but you do love each other so you can do it. I promise that you will see results in just a couple of weeks, if you will do this. It doesn’t matter how old they are so don’t try to use that as an excuse. You can go about it differently, if they are teenagers, as opposed to preschoolers.
Start with some like this – 1)God Bless You, Son. 2)Sweet Dreams and I pray that you have great dreams and never another nightmare, (Insert your child’s name). 3)If it can be done, (insert name), I know that you will figure it out. Here’s one I use all the time, “You are greatly blessed, highly favored, and deeply loved by Daddy God.“ Teach your children to go and ask Jesus for something if you know that you aren’t able to give them something that they want. Our God is able to do all things! That teaches them to trust a God who loves them. You are instilling something in them that will benefit them throughout their whole life!
Will you allow me to Bless YOU?
You are unique and so very special. There is not another one of you anywhere. God has designed you with a destiny in mind and he placed a desire in you to BE FREE! I speak life on you right now and I break every curse that has EVER been spoken over you, in the name of Jesus! You are beautifully made and you are God’s Masterpiece. No matter what you look like on the outside, whether beautiful/handsome or not, YOU are the person who Speaks LIFE! Your conversation is who you really are.
God Bless You with every spiritual blessing, In Jesus’ Name!
Michelle Drinkard is a Powerful Woman of God who has been married to a Preacher of the Gospel for over 20 years. She is a mother to two amazing children! 🙂 She is helping people – one step at a time – to take control of their spending habits, build an income working from home and get out of debt with reality-based principles. Michelle will tell you like it is… in a REAL, no-fluff, back-to-basics way that produces RESULTS. Her goal is to see people completely FREE – Spiritually, Financially, and Physically!