Say What You Mean!

Say What You Mean! You have to try to get across whatever it is that you want people to understand, right? Red paper with xoxo written on it. Say what you mean

In this fast-paced age, when everyone has a cell phone, computers, and internet access everywhere they go… You would think that people would say what they mean and communication levels would be higher than ever! The only problem is… I don’t think that’s the case.

In my humble opinion, I still believe that communication is the key to healthy relationships! So, say what you mean and then make sure you are understood before you leave the conversation!

Sometimes when we say things, people don’t really hear it or try to understand what you mean. It really depends on “where they are” when you say it.

For instance, if I were to say to my daughter, “Tiana, someday I hope to be where you are today.”

  • You could assume that Tiana is in the kitchen and that’s where I want to be. (*wink* smiling now because I am one that avoids the kitchen, lol! For some reason, I don’t like cooking and I hate doing the dishes.)
  • You could assume that since she just won the State Championship in Javelin throwing that I wanted to be an outstanding athlete.
  • Tiana has a beautiful 18 year-old body so it would be very easy to assume that I want to be where she is in fitness and muscle tone.

All of those things listed could be true but without her asking me, “What do you mean, Moma?” she will probably never know. Some statements are meant to open the conversation or to create real life-producing thoughts.

Now, if she had just been working out and was focused on stretching and the cool-down phase, her thought process would be different than it would be if she had just returned to her seat from leading the Praise & Worship service at church. Or, if we had just finished talking about finances for her first year of college, her perception of that statement would be entirely different than it would be if I were mad at her for not doing the laundry. (I use sarcasm way too much at our house so my children are always “on guard”. It does, however, provoke them to think about the things that are said and the way that they use their words!)

Here’s the deal – If I were to tell her right now, “Tiana, someday I hope to be where you are today” it would mean that she is a leader and she inspires people. She has a magnetic attraction because of her obvious “Favor of God” and people are drawn to her. She knows she has value and beauty and she isn’t dealing with any “junk” about the way she looks. That’s what I mean by saying that I want to be where she is!

Do you want to lead people and empower them to be FREE? You will need influence and the “Favor of God” to do that.

The good news is that all you have to do is ASK for it and the Lord will give it to you!

We all have strengths and weaknesses. We should learn to build on our strengths and become stronger in them so that we become the expert. For our weaknesses, let’s find partners, friends or family members and come into agreement for them to take care of the issues that we are weak in.

It is my hope that I have helped you with this story! We are all on a journey together! It is my desire to see you more and more FREE! As you conquer something, help someone else to follow in your footsteps. It’s ok to give some things away. It’s also ok to charge for products and services that have value for others. People are buying “stuff” every day that has NO value and wasting their money. It would be much better for them to see some value for their money by buying from you!

We have started a community of people who care about each other and want to see each other succeed. There’s no reason to be jealous of somebody else because God has enough love and grace for the whole world!

There’s room on top of this mountain of influence! Let’s Say What We Mean and Mean What We Say! How about it? Would you like to join me?

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Michelle Drinkard is a Powerful Woman of God who has been married to a sweet Preacher of the Gospel for over 20 years. She is a mother to two amazing children! 🙂 She is helping people – one step at a time – to take control of their spending habits, stretch their money and get out of debt with reality-based principles. Michelle will tell you like it is… in a REAL, no-fluff, back-to-basics way that produces RESULTS.



6 Replies to “Say What You Mean!”

  1. This rings so true in everyday conversations and expectations that I have of myself and others. “Where they are” (myself included) is often with their face in an iPad, so I definitely need to make sure we are on the same page.

    1. Hey Charlene, I’m included in the “where they are” too! I have to let go of business stuff and pay attention to family… ON PURPOSE! Thanks for being here & posting! 🙂

  2. My husband struggles with that. I communicate clearly and him I gotta drag it out. We are working on it day by day though and its always getting better. Just gotta work at it.

  3. I so agree!! Communication is SO important! My husband and I communicate very differently and we have had to really work with each other to get good at it. After 17 years I think we finally got it! LOL

  4. Oh my goodness….I am SO bad about this especially with my poor husband. I am a better writer/communicator because I usually take the time to think about what I want to say. I am really bad about assuming I know what he’s thinking and when the conversation finally comes up, he makes me speak up, lol and I am usually wrong. Ha! Shhhh, don’t tell him 😉 I need to be better about communicating what I’m thinking and asking him where he stands before I let it get bottled up. 🙂

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